My nephew, age 17, has been home-schooled all his life. I visited my sister’s family last week for the first time in years and realized my nephew is extremely sheltered and has no social skills. When I wanted to take a walk with him, my sister was nervous because she never lets him go anywhere without her. Taking him to Starbucks I realized that he had never ordered for himself before and had no idea how to talk to the cashier. My sister and her husband do not let the boy watch TV, go outside alone, or have friends. What should I do about this? Should I say something to my sister or not get involved?
Peace is something that we can pretend to have too. Do you know a person, or are you, completely calm on the outside, but a withering mess inside? This person is someone who has buried their own issues so deeply and assumed a stance of peace-maker because it helps them to get through life.
If you have ever read the book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People you’ll know that the key to influencing people is to empathise with them – a key attribute in emotional intelligence. If you want your son to quit smoking you tell him he won’t be fit enough to get into the basketball team. NOT that smoking is, as a matter of fact, unhealthy – yada yada ad infinitum.
Stimulus Response: One of the symptoms of autism is a lack of response to many things that others respond to right away. This is something that is often very obvious. They either respond in an inappropriate manner or not at all. Some will not respond to noises or stimulus in any way, which scares parents. Others might be overly sensitive to touch, sound, and even the feeling of clothing on their skin. They may also get lost in patterns and explore with rubbing and licking.
6) Resilience… we have to take the rough with the smooth and being able to find a way to handle life’s challenges is an important life skill. We protect our children when they are very young from challenges which are beyond their capacity to cope but gradually as they mature we encourage them to face up to obstacles and find a way around them. Resilience is that ability to get back up to try again.
Playtime: Though children with autism do play some, they often play on their own. The want to play with other children in many cases, but lack the positive parenting to maintain or even form friendships. This brings anxiety, and pushes them to play on their own where they feel safe. They may show repetition in play, and might be so focused on something that there seems to be nothing that will drag their attention away from what they are doing.
Don’t be cocky, be gracious. This person appreciated you enough to ask you out, so treat them with respect. Even if you think this is not the person for you and you want to get out of this date as soon as possible. The day will come when someone is thinking the exact same thing about you. Be nice.
If you have a parrot with behavior problems do give up. If you don’t, certainly don’t let it develop any. With effort, time, patience and love those unwanted behaviors can be modified or even eliminated. Train your parrot. Socialize your parrot. It is the kindest thing you will ever do for it. Don’t you think he deserves it?